Tuesday, March 5, 2013

From the Beginning; Untold Secrets


photo by Liz Denfeld


"Nothing is more beautiful than the love that has weathered the storms of life..."-Jerome k. Jerome 
(quote sent to us in a card from one of Stephen's good friends)




Before I get into the details of the actual wedding day
(ie: getting ready, ceremony, reception)
I wanted to share a little bit about what transpired in the weeks leading up to March 2nd,
since very few people knew we were getting married on that day.
(I know...you all are probably like, who cares Megan, show me the dang photos...)


After we cancelled our wedding,
that we had been planning for 7 months,
we were left reeling.


Moments after making the decision,
I made phone calls, and sent e mails to every American guest making sure they didn't book flights.
(sorry Ahn and Ali...it was too late for you...)
Stephen and I spent the next two days canceling venues and vendors,
and resigning to the fact that we would not get the majority of our deposits back...
(we only managed to get one deposit back..which was a huge blessing)

Despite the money lost,
we felt a huge sense of relief,
and knew our decision was the right one.

We both knew what we wanted to do next,
move up the date,
and go to a courthouse.

Originally we thought it would be just Stephen and I,
but during the first 48 hours of canceling our big wedding,
we received tons of e mails from our sweet friends asking us when our new date was,
and telling us how they wanted to be there to be our witnesses.

Liz and Corey had flights already pulled up online,
ready to pull the trigger on any date Stephen and I decided upon.
During those moments,
we felt so loved...
so supported...
and knew we wanted those people,
who wanted to be there,
come and celebrate with us...
and we wanted to do something that showed them how thankful we were.


We spent the next couple of weeks planning something that would reflect us as a couple.
We made every decision together,
went shopping for outfits together,
went to the registrar office to book the date together,
bought flowers for my bouquet together,
and had meetings with The Cameron House to plan our intimate reception.
We enjoyed every single moment of planning this wedding,
something I can honestly say was not happening during the process of planning our original wedding.


During one of our darkest hours,
people stepped up.
Even those that could not physically be here,
showed up in their own way.

This wedding,
 though it came together so quickly,
and as a result of some unfortunate circumstances,
ended up being so beautiful and filled with so much love.

Sometimes life will throw you unexpected curve balls,
it is in those moments,
where emotions are high,
and sorrow runs deep,
that you discover the true strength of your relationships,
and find your soft landing.







104 comments:

  1. The last line - so true and so perfect.

    Sometimes the most difficult of things will bring us to the most beautiful of places and much more grateful than we were in the beginning.

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  2. Congratulations!
    ps-change your description silly girl, ur now MARRIED, not engaged to a Northern Irish man!!<3

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    1. LOL! I am i am! A whole new design is going up this week!

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  3. AND you got to put your amazing pins on show. So, really, this wedding was a win. Congrats, Mrs Graham! You really do make us all believe in love *cue violins*

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  4. Good for both of you, I love how you tackled this together and pulled together, my 'first' wedding got cancelled as I told you before, hubs buckled under the stress of his family's wants and it took me a long long time to forgive him, he handled it all wrong. You two are more mature and glued for life!

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  5. Perfectly put! Isn't it funny how things which seem tragic at the time can actual morph into something so much better!? I'm so glad you still ended up having some of your closest friends there and I'm glad you were able to plan something that represented your relationship together as a couple :) It turned out so utterly and completely beautiful in the end :)

    xxx
    Jenna

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  6. Congratulations. I've been devouring the contents of this blog all day and from this one day of reading I am so ecstatic and happy for you. I'm only seventeen and a long way off from weddings, but I hope that when I finally find that guy that our relationship can survive things like this and come out better than ever :)

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  7. Beautiful words...beautiful couple. So glad for you both! Despite what the world tells us it really is more about the actual MARRIAGE than the wedding anyway! And yes...show us more pictures!!!

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  8. we were so happy to be there for you both. you guys are an amazing couple who have a once-in-a-lifetime kind of love that needed to be CELEBRATED! the day was so perfect and beautiful - you guys were so generous and made it fun and special for all of us there. thank you for including us!!

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  9. Everything happens for a reason...and your smiles are testament to that. You both look so happy! <3

    P.S. And yes, I can't wait to see more photographs!

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  10. Awww....Megan! I have loved following your wedding/marriage journey since I found your blog a few months ago. And can I say? It has been such a pleasure to see the story unfolding. I'm sorry it didn't turn out the way you were originally planning, but I am so so happy that it all turned out wonderful anyway. I actually wanted to do the same thing with our wedding {but elope in hawaii. :)} I felt all this pressure from our families to have a wedding and so I went with it. I'm so glad you and Stephen were able to enjoy planning your small ceremony with intimate friends. You are a beautiful bride and the courthouse looks so stunning. Can't wait to see more photos!

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    1. thank you so much Mary Beth!! Thank you for following along and supporting us!

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  11. This wedding is so romantic and PERFECT for you both! xx

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  12. what a beautiful picture! sounds like an amazing day!

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  13. Geez I feel like in idiot with a capital I for not knowing you even cancelled your wedding until you told me, and seeing how emotional that must have been. I love how you and Stephen have faced all of this together. That is the first step to a very solid foundation of a rockstar marriage;)
    Love being able to see you two together in wedded bliss:D :D
    Much love,
    Anna

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  14. I'm so happy for you two. You really deserve all the best in this world!

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  15. even though you had your heart set on the wedding you'd been planning for 7 months i can only imagine how special this one was for you and stephen and how you'll always remember the love that went into it.

    *throwing confetti*

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  16. This is like so so exciting!!! We {as in my roommates} and myself have been following you for a while now and we are SO thrilled that you and S have tied the knot. That picture above is kind of blowing my mind!! Can you like make that into a giant canvas and hang it somewhere in your L.A. home?? It's just an amazing picture and a testament to how much y'all love each other!!! So happy for you Meg!!!

    -Emily

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    1. Aw Emily this comment made me smile so big!! Thank you!! :)

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  17. love this. love that you guys are so loved. in times like this, it's all the more important.
    xo

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  18. I love this! You two are a true testament to destiny. You didn't let anything stand in your way and the smiles on your faces says it all. Beautiful!!!

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  19. Yay. I love how everything isn't always as you imagine it will be--it's usually better. :) :)
    xoxox

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  20. this is absolutely gorgeous and perfect. congrats.

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  21. Beautiful. The pictures, the words, the heart behind it. Congrats again (I might be saying this on every post from now on.) You guys just look so happy!

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  22. Absolutely. Congratulations love! I'm so happy for you both!!!

    XO, Emily
    Blue Dog Belle

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  23. This is just beautiful. I think in the end it turned out perfect and true to the both of you. What a beautiful blessing. Congratulations!

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  24. I'm so glad this turned out the way it did; it seems perfect for you two. And weddings, really, need to be more about the couple, and less about everyone else.

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  25. Every photo you posted is better than the last.

    Isn't it so amazing when people you love step up for you and exceed your expectations. It's like a wake up call, "oh yea, there's is good in this world".

    It sounds like the perfect day. xx

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  26. i am so happy for you two!! every photo i have seen from your big day has been stunning and you look so in love! y'all are beautiful and i wish you so many years of wedded bliss!! happily every after, yaay!

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  27. I love this whole post! Congratulations on the beginning of this next chapter! :)

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  28. Congratulations on getting married!! That's wonderful. I'm so glad everything worked out for you guys, and it's so great to see your friends being so supportive and wanting to be there for you. You have some great people in your life :)

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  29. Isn't it crazy how things end up working out? Granted sometimes the light is after a pretty crummy time but I'm SO glad you two were able to make something happen. I think it's quite a reflection of how you two are as a couple - and shows that you know what's important in a relationship and marriage!

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  30. I love it! It's awesome that you two had so much peace about the new plan, and all of the support! It shows this really was the best choice for you. How wonderful!

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  31. you certainly have a way with words! this is so beautifully put. congratulations again!

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  32. sometimes we just have to trust that what's meant to be will be, and I think you finally got your happy ending :) So happy everything worked out for you!

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  33. I have LOVED seeing you and Sophie's photos on Instagram. I've been waiting for these wedding pictures since last year. GET CRACKIN'!

    Ps.. Love you so much. I love that you did the right thing even though it was the most difficult thing.

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  34. I can't even imagine a better day.... You have demonstrated such grace and maturity and I feel lucky to "know" you, even in this limited format of the internet. I can't wait to see more images, hear more about your day, and celebrate this new beginning with you. CHEERS and MAZAL TOV!!!!!!!!!!

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  35. I'm so happy that you had a wedding that was all about you and that you could enjoy. I can tell by the smiles on your faces that it was perfect. I cannot wait to see more of Liz's beautiful photos. Enjoy basking in your marital bliss!

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  36. I am more than obsessed with the photo Liz snapped above. I mean how precious! The happiness on both of your faces ... that's true love that is meant to be!

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  37. congratulations on your marriage! Hope it is long and happy :)

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  38. I"m so happy things worked out for the very best and that despite it not being the original plan, it was the wedding of your dreams.

    Reminds me of one of my favorite quotes:
    "Remember that sometimes not getting what you want is a wonderful stroke of luck" -The Dalai Lama

    I love the last paragraph of this post. You are truly a beautiful writer and now a beautiful wife, too!

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  39. And they lived happily ever after.
    you two are radiant with happiness and love. so so beautiful.

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  40. This is so beautiful. I think it's really romantic to have a private wedding not planned so intense. Very sweet that those closest to you still made it out to make things even more special.

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  41. Oh dang. That last paragraph? Man, if I wasn't at work right now, I'd be a hot mess for sure. (There are a few tears that escaped, though!).

    I'm going through an "unexpected curveball" right now. Thanks for speaking to my heart.

    And SO happy you guys had such a beautiful wedding!! I absolutely love that picture of you two!

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  42. This is a very sweet post.... (tear). I'm glad that it all worked out for the best, that you had an amazing day, and you were surrounded by love. Because, in the end, your happiness is all that matters. =) My love to you both.

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  43. Love it!! I'm so glad everything worked out so perfectly... I guess things have a way of doing that?

    And sorry to talk about myself right now (ahem) BUT as I get closer to my wedding, I keep thinking about how all the other things (the flowers, invites, table linens, etc.) just don't matter and I really, really just want to marry Zach. You're so lucky that you're already there!!

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  44. ooooh, marriage is just gonna be sososo good with the both of yous:-) That kind of strength is what's gonna make the years full of awesome!!! xoxo

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  45. Congrats on your marriage! You were such a beautiful bride.

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  46. I am so happy for you Megan! I loved following you and Liz on Instagram this weekend and can't wait to see more photos! Even though plans changed, it seems like everything worked out the way it was supposed to :) Congrats to you and Stephen! xoxo

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  47. congratulations! so happy everything worked out, looks like an absolutely lovely wedding. and you looked amazing of course!

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  48. LOVE THIS!! I am so happy for you two, and that you got to have a wedding that you both LOVED!

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  49. You guys look great--and so happy. I love your dress!

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  50. That picture is absolutely my FAVORITE!!!! I am so happy for you two! That is similar to what my Hubs and I did for our elopement... we got to plan everything together. Love love love. <3

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  51. as much as i love wedding photos, i may like this more. it made me so sad that you had to cancel your wedding until i realized that you still are going to marry S and that's all that matters. i am glad that you had a beautiful (SUNNY!!) day. :)

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  52. this made me cry - so sweet. cant wait to see more photos and congratulations!!

    http://itsthelittlethingsblog.blogspot.com

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  53. your happiness radiates in the picture! I am so happy for you both. Many congratulations and prayers for a wonderful, long, happy marriage. xx

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  54. wohoo!!! congratulations you're a mr and mrs!!! i mean the whole huge ireland wedding is soooo overrated anyways... california weddings/receptions is where it's at!

    so glad you guys got to have such a beautiful and special wedding. you truly deserve such a beautiful start to your marriage only full of love and support.

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  55. I love that not only did you get the wedding, but that you guys planned it together for you each other and had your friends involved. That is all the important aspects, and looks like it was an amazing day. Love that photo! So cute!

    Bonnie Rose | The Compass Rose

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  56. its like reading a mystery story that i just can't figure out :P and i can't wait to see more pictures :)

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  57. HAPPY HAPPY HAPPY!!! I adore that quote at the beginning almost as much as this sweet story! Can't wait to see more of your amazing day!

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  58. It's such a romantic story! I love that you sort of secretly eloped with your sexy Irish man! I mean, that's like Lifetime movie material at least! Now start making some beautiful babies with Irish accents! ;)

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    1. hahahaha! I love lifetime movies..so it makes sense ive made a life fit for one ;)

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  59. what a beautiful story! also, your dress is so lovely.

    jorie

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  60. So much joy in this picture! It's perfect. You were so blessed with the kindest people.

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  61. Beautiful! I am looking forward to see all the pictures of this amazing day. I think if I ever get married I also want all the planning together as a couple, including looking for a dress. I love the way of your wedding and you look truely happy!
    All the best, Kristina x

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  62. I mean!! All the pics are just incredible! What a wonderful and lovely day!! I am so happy for you guys that it all turned out to be beautiful and that you both felt loved!! Congrats a thousand times!!

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  63. Dude. Seriously got chilled reading the last four lines!!! So beautiful. I'm so touched and happy for you two it's bananas.

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  64. Somebody probably have said that already, but everything happens for a reason! Maybe you didn't have the wedding you thought you would, but what matters is that you're now married to the man you love! And a happy marriage is much more important than a big wedding! It looks like it was a perfect day though! Congrats again! :)

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  65. I have the chills! That is such a gorgeous photo! Congrats!

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  66. You are an inspiration in so many ways and it is beautiful to see someone with the courage to do what works for them and encapsulates the whole blog! ;) Thank you for inspiring me now...where's my Irish stud? ;)

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  67. beautiful meg! SOOOOO unbelievably happy for you. Love you! <3

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  68. Beautifully written, and that photo, oh my goodness. I am so happy for the two of you! So sweet that you planned the wedding together, definitely says a lot about your love for each other.

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  69. Such a sweet, beautiful post. I have been absent from the blogging world for too long, but I'm glad I read this. You look STUNNING and I hope that your day was beyond perfect!

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  70. so so so SO glad that your day was perfect and just as you wanted! That's JUST as it should be!

    You look gorgeous and truly happy. CONGRATS! :)

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  71. I truly believe things happen for a reason and looking back now knowing all the tears and uncertainty ended up being worth it is great! As a couple situations like this can only make you stronger. Congratulations!!!

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  72. oh man, this left me all teary eyed. so sweet...

    ♥CheChe

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  73. Love you and love seeing you two married!!!!!!!!!! Yay!!!!!! I wish I could have been there with you but thank goodness Liz was taking photos so we can all relive it with you. I am SO happy for you both and the life ahead together. Happy wedded bliss, my sweet, beautiful, wonderful friend!

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  74. And once again I put my trust in the line... "Everything happens for a reason"
    This sweet wedding was a true representation of both you and S and the unique love that you share. It was just perfect in every way.
    x

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  75. So happy for the two of you. Small weddings are sooo romantic! You both look BEAUTIFUL and SO in love ! Wishing you the best for your married life :)

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  76. this sounds so romantic! It is good you both followed your heart, sometimes the big wedding isn't meant for everyone and something so small and unique like this can be absolutely beautiful and just perfect. I can't wait to see more photos

    Jacqueline xx

    www.the-prettylittlethings.blogspot.com.au

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  77. here's to your soft landing!!! i love your words. congratulations!

    mylettchronicals

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  78. So amazing and so special! So very happy for you Megan! It sounds SO much more special than my wedding!! That is what it should be about in the end...
    Thank you for sharing! And that quote - "Nothing is more beautiful than the love that has weathered the storms of life..."-Jerome k. Jerome
    - it rings so true for me as it is just like me and my hubby.

    Congratulations again xxx

    http://shannybannanyslife.blogspot.com

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  79. WOW! I think you might be the only bride I know that could cancel a wedding, lose deposits, and still look absolutely STUNNING!!! In the end it isn't about the party or the reception, it is about the love and you two definitely showed that!

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  80. That was so touching. All the best to you on your new journey as married couple!

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  81. wow-sounds like quite a journey to get there-but makes the experience even more special. you look beautiful. sure it was a truely magical day.

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  82. I give you all the credit in the world. Our wedding planning didn't go very well and there were times I wasn't sure that we were going to make it. If only I could have been as brave as you to step up and just say "no, this isn't going right, it needs to end" i think we would have had a much more enjoyable experience. Props to you girl!

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  83. So happy everything worked out for you in the end!

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  84. This is my favorite of all your wedding photos! Congrats!!!!! You two are adorable! :)

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  85. I love that quote and it is so true. Couples than can inure hardship, especially early on, are survivors. Whatever the reasons for your cancellation, I know it must have been a hard decision to make and an even harder one to explain (or not explain) to family, friends, readers. You guys are in it for the long haul, I can tell! -jb.

    http://madewithlovebyjackieb.blogspot.co.uk/

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  86. That quote is beautiful...and so, so true. Not just at the beginning of a marriage but throughout it. Love that you decided on all of the details together - that's what a marriage is. Congratulations on your marriage...I look forward to reading more and gush at your beautiful pictures!

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  87. I love that you guys planned and did everything together leading up to the wedding... I feel like thats exactly how it should be. Why doesn't everyone do that?!

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  88. I am so behind! I had no idea you had to cancel. How terrible! My heart goes out to you and S, but Meg from what I've read you have been so graceful despite the circumstances. And I just adore the fact that you've done everything together and even walked down the isle as one. That's what matters and I think the world of you for sharing all of this with the us and doing so with such maturity. Your wedding was absolutely gorgeous and intimate and my idea of perfection. Plus you got married on my birthday so I'll think of y'all each year now! :)

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  89. I think you guys, by dealing with this, learned more about true partnership in the wedding planning process than most couples do before tying the knot and that is so valuable. Weddings are the beginning and not the end and I think yours has truly demonstrated that.

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  90. Congrats!!!! I'm glad it worked out so perfectly!!

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  91. I am so behind and I am so sorry about that, but OMG!!! Congrats to you and Stephen! You two look amazing.

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