|An Instagram shot of our wedding Invitations courtesy of Amanda's instagram!|
Invitation design by WhitneyCPBG
Just a little peek at our invitations to get this Monday started...
On to the topic of plus ones...
You don't have millions of dollars,
and can't invite everyone to your wedding,
so what do you do about the issue of plus ones?
I feel like this may be the most awkward topic of conversation,
second to not having children at your wedding.
When Stephen and I started the planning process,
I originally wanted like 20 people at our wedding,
but Stephen has around 40 first cousins,
so that was obviously out of the question.
We agreed on a number of 80,
except somehow our current guest list has 105...
(side eye Stephen).
with it being a destination wedding for a number of guests,
we will still probably land near the 80ish mark.
With Stephen's family being so big,
and us wanting a wedding on the smaller side,
(and not being made of money)
we really had to choose our guests carefully.
This is how Stephen and I have determined who can bring a plus one:
A. They are married or engaged (duh)
B. They have been living together and or have a child together
C. They have been dating a long time (at least a year) and either myself, Stephen, or both of us, know and have met the significant other.
D. They are traveling from the USA (I am obviously not going to tell my American friends they cannot bring a date when they are traveling across the world and spending a lot of money in the process).
This of course is always destined to create some sort of issue with someone who wants to bring a date.
I get it,
I know if I were invited to a wedding and Stephen was not,
I would be bummed,
but I also know the expense that goes into a wedding.
I think sometimes people only take into account the cost of the food as the only item the bride and groom pay per person.
Except, it is not just the food that costs money per individual.
In some cases,
the chair you are sitting on,
that pretty plate you are eating off of,
the cocktail glass you a drinking out of,
your individual menu,
place card holder,
and drink your drinking...
are all costs that have been paid just for you.
That, along with many other items, are all things that add up; far exceeding the amount of just your meal.
And that is just a few examples.
I wish we could just say,
everyone is invited!
You can totally bring the guy you just met on the side of the road because he has sexy scruff and good height!
But we can't,
and to be honest,
when I look up from my meal at dinner,
I want to see the faces of those nearest and dearest to us.
Thoughts/stories about the plus ones?
Did you allow them?
Did you have certain stipulations like we do?
Did people not show up because they couldn't bring a date?
Did people show up with a date regardless of their names not being on the invite?