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"Introverts, in contrast, may have strong social skills and enjoy parties and business meetings, but after a while wish they were home in their pajamas. They prefer to devote their social energies to close friends, colleagues, and family. They listen more than they talk, think before they speak, and often feel as if they express themselves better in writing than in conversation..." - S.C. Quiet
I found this quote on a daily read of mine here..
And I was like..YES
that is me.
Contrary to what you may think based off of the fact that sometimes I take pictures of myself,
as seen above.
I would bet money that most bloggers are probably slightly introverted..
feeling more comfortable behind the screen.
But that could be just me talking out of the neuroscience side of my brain.
Contrary to what you may think based off of the fact that sometimes I take pictures of myself,
as seen above.
I would bet money that most bloggers are probably slightly introverted..
feeling more comfortable behind the screen.
But that could be just me talking out of the neuroscience side of my brain.
For a long time I tried to deny my introverted tendencies..
convincing myself I was extroverted because all of my friends in LA were..
and when you are working in LA,
being extroverted seems like a necessary job requirement.
When I moved to the UK,
and left my old life behind,
I was finally able to embrace my more introverted nature.
I didn't feel pressured to go out every night,
or attend every social function,
and I could pick and choose the people I wanted to hang out with.
(Don't ask me why, but I never felt like I was able to have this much control over my social settings when I lived in LA)
I can carry a conversation in groups,
but I prefer one on one time with people.
I love getting dressed up and attending a large social gathering,
but like to stay for only a few hours then come home and quickly peel out of my clothes and get into comfies as fast as possible.
I re-charge by being alone,
and if I am spending days or weeks in the company of others,
even family,
I need to take at least half an hour a day to myself or I begin to feel anxious.
This could be why I never had roommates,
and other than living with a significant other,
I've always lived alone.
I think it's fun to reflect on the type of person you are..
to better understand yourself..
know your limits
and cater to your strengths.
It makes me, a better me.
How would you describe yourself? Introverted or extroverted?
I have so many friends that NEED to be in social settings to feel re-charged.
They are constantly on the go.
I find it so amazing, and try to soak up some of their extroverted gifts,
but then end up eating a tub of ice cream in bed while i watch reality tv and shake from over stimulation.
but then end up eating a tub of ice cream in bed while i watch reality tv and shake from over stimulation.






I'm most definitely introverted. I always enjoy myself when I'm out at parties yet I really enjoy coming home. When we do choose to go out, I prefer small groups to large ones and I'm definitely not one of those people that is friends with everyone. I prefer keeping a small, close group of people rather than a million acquaintances.
ReplyDeleteI'm very introverted, although people who know me would never believe it. I enjoy going out and finding company in others, but on any given day I'd rather be at home with Aaron and Twink than out in a large group of people. You look fabulous!
ReplyDeleteThis quote is so true for me as well! I may need to use it! I much rather just be with my family or by myself than go to some function with a whole lot of friends and what not. And I love spending the weekend in my pjs on the sofa by myself or with the hubs! :)
ReplyDeleteThis is me for sure. I'm friendly and easy going in a crowd, but it takes so much of my energy to be like that. I am so good one on one. I love home and family, even though I love a party, it's just really draining for my introverted self.
ReplyDeleteI am definitely an introvert. I've never been a party person, and would much rather spend time alone/with my fiance, than with a group of people. And I definitely feel more comfortable behind the screen than talking in real life.
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That's a great quote. I'm definitely introverted. I think you put it in a great way-,"recharge by being alone"- that's me to a T!
ReplyDeleteI guess I'm an introvert because I just don't give a crap.
ReplyDeletewoooord. i love that quote. im super social with friends and people i want to get to know but sometimes i just dont feel like going out and would rather find a tub o ice cream :) xoxo jillian:: cornflake dreams
ReplyDeleteWhile I think that's a great quote, I'd argue to say that it would be more accurate to say that you have a tendency to lean toward one side or another. Putting a black and white label on something like personalities can have implications that you don't intend or desire :)
ReplyDeleteI agree with Erica. There is definatly a sliding scale to personality. Even within a person. On any given day, I can feel more introverted or extroverted than the last. Overall, I'd say I'm on the introverted side of the scale.
ReplyDeleteI thought it was interesting, Megan, that you mentioned how your environment effected how you interacted with people. How with your move to the UK, you were finally able to embrace your introverted side, rather than feel you had to keep up with the extroverted crowd in LA. Maybe other countries don't see being introverted as such an odd thing...
That quote is so me. I love going out and meeting new people and hanging out with large groups of friends, but I always love that part at the end of the night where I come home and get to be by myself for a bit. In pajamas, definitely. :)
ReplyDeleteMe too.
ReplyDeleteYou will probably enjoy this TED Talk on the power of introversion:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c0KYU2j0TM4
She talks about how our current cultural environment promotes extroversion, but there are actually many strengths associated with introversion.
I also completely find myself completely in this quote, and I do agree with you that bloggers tend to be more introverted than extroverted as they would possibly otherwise be more involved in showing presence and being in the scene...
ReplyDeleteBut I do need people around me to reflect myself. Always happy though when I can snuggle up on the couch and read to re-charge.
so funny because i've been seeing a lot of stuff on blogs lately on introverted vs. extroverted and i've always considered myself extroverted and i think most of my friends see me that way too but the more i read about being an introvert i think it definitely describes me!
ReplyDeleteErica(1)- I completely agree with you. I think we all definitely have a tendency to lean more towards one, and have aspects of both. But i dont think saying you identify with one paticular one over the other is putting a black and white label on it. Like i said in my post, I love going out in large groups (a more extroverted tendency) but like to stay for a short while and then re-charge alone (a more introverted tendency). I think in regards to this particular topic, saying you are one or the other doesnt have to be a negative thing. BUT i will agree with you in regards to possibly labeling people based off of personality traits, or giving diagnoses to people with certain "quirks" is something that can become a serious problem, and is a problem currently...but this post is definitely not going that far.
ReplyDelete@Erica(2)- I think environment can totally play a roll in how we live, or portray ourselves to the world. For me, living in LA i think helped bring me out of my shell, made me more comfortable in large groups, etc..but on the flip side, being that i too lean towards being more introverted, caused me to be really anxious a lot of the time. In the UK, my anxiety is much lower, BUT I wish more of the people i came across were a bit more extroverted (ironic).
ReplyDeletehello fellow introvert! i love your blog!
ReplyDeleteI agree completely...... I have been visiting Michaela and then my in-laws came in town (leaving in a few hours) but I have had pretty much zero alone/quiet time and I am feeling anxious for sure. I just need to sit and drink coffee and snuggle with bella for a few hours today and I think I will be all set to dive back into "life" :) p.s. you are adorable ALL of the time. love the pics!
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Whoa! I always would have described myself as an extrovert, but that quote IS ABOUT ME. I swear, that is me. I am going to have to reevaluate everything. ;)
ReplyDeleteI am definitely an introvert and I've come to accept it. When I was a freshman in college, we had to take one of those Myers-Briggs personality tests and my results screamed introvert. It was tough because I was a theatre major in college and was just expected to be more extroverted. I've accepted my true nature now and I even embrace it. After weekends like the one I just had (shooting a wedding all day Saturday then spending Father's Day with family all day Sunday) I am fully prepared to let myself be alone in the apartment all day today because I know it'll make me a happier person by tomorrow. :)
ReplyDeletei prefer one-on-one convos to group convos any day of the week.
ReplyDeleteI love being at home, but I'm a total extrovert. I'm energized when I'm around people and when I'm home I just want to sleep.Yes, I love my pj's but I'm a total extrovert in that I need to be around people. I just want pj's to be more social acceptable outside the bedroom.
ReplyDeleteLovely shirt and great post.
ReplyDeleteThis is me to a T...everything except the 'talking before I speak'...always a struggle with me.
ReplyDeleteBut I so much rather prefer to be home, or run out for only a few hours to get that 'social time' in before dying to be home alone in my comfies.
Me and crowds have never really gotten along.
Emily at Amazing Grapes
I also think most bloggers tend to be introverted. I'm quite a mix of the both - I'm an ESTP on the MBTI, but I'm not the typical extrovert. I'm quite shy in groups, dislike public speaking and also prefer one on one contact. - unless I'm intoxicated, then I'm the life of the party, ha. But, I recharge by being out and about and with those close to me. I don't really enjoy just sitting on my own and reading and a weekend spent inside absolutely kills me!
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I completely agree with that quote...could have been describing me, except that I do talk quite a lot - but really only in small groups one-on-one. I get to anxious in a crowd! Trying to learn the art of being a better listener though :-). Perhaps that's what draws all us introverts to blogland. We can interact (or not) at will - when we're in the mood - and then turn off the screen when we're ready for some "me" time. Hope your day is a good one!
ReplyDeleteWow, that quote definitely sums me up as well! I like going places (sometimes), but before I even get there I'm thinking about being home. It's not something I always like about myself. I used to be a lot more extroverted when I was younger (high school, even college), but towards the end of college I think I found myself a bit more and was true to my introverted tendencies.
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I actually would have pegged you as an extrovert!
ReplyDeleteI consider myself an introvert as well. I feel like you've totally described me in this post, ha! If I'm at a party with family or friends, I like to step outside or go in another room just to be alone for a little while. It's absolutely vital to my sanity! That among many many other little introvert habits I have.
hey! just found your blog via the curley cues :) that quote describes me EXACTLY!!!!!!! I'm heading to NYC in August with a group (for BlogHer) and am already having anxiety about no alone time for 5 days.....
ReplyDeleteI would'nt have ever used the word "introverted" to describe myself (is it just me, or does that word sometimes seem to be looked as a negative quality to have..?)..maybe slightly shy, but then I read that qoute and it's the perfect description of my personality! I think when I was younger I might have tried to play the part of an extrovert but have learned overtime that I'm completely ok with doing the opposite.
ReplyDeleteBefore college I thought I was an extrovert...then I realized I am most definitely NOT! I recharge by being alone. I really love spending time in my room either reading, drawing, or just watching a show to relax.
ReplyDeleteAlso, your shirt is very cute :)
this post is amazing, and i love that quote! I've always thought of myself as an extrovert (or maybe just wanted to be one..) but every personality test ive done for work has said i'm an introvert, and now, after reading that quote, I realize I definitely am and I'm soo ok with it! love me some alone time and spending time with those few that matter!
ReplyDeleteI do love that quote. I often would rather be in my pjs as well...but wouldn't call myself an introvert...or does that mean I am one??! :-)
ReplyDeleteas a "mature",
ReplyDeleteim becoming more introverted.
but im always the one talking to everyone and dancing until i'm actually told to leave the party...whoops.
I am definitely an introverted, like you -I admire my extroverted friend's tendencies and try to follow them but it ends up badly. I need to be alone in order to recharge. And I couldn't agree more with you, knowing oneself better is so necessary in order to become the best version of oneself.
ReplyDeleteIntrovert. Its interesting because I like being around people but I'd rather not do anything if it's with people I'm not really comfortable with and i don't mind parties but I'm not that great at that scene. All of us introverts stick together. Although, I like having the extroverts around to make things interesting!
ReplyDeleteIt's so interesting that you posted this today as I've been pondering whether or not I'm really introverted or just reserved? And whether the two are the same? I was actually considering writing a similar post!
ReplyDeleteReading the quote though, I really do feel that it describes me REALLY well. I often wonder if others see me as introverted. Sometimes others view us totally different than we view ourselves. It's really interesting to think about.
Great post, my dear! :)
I find that since I've moved from the states as well I've also changed the way I interact with people. I felt a lot more pressure to be social and present in the states where as here its a lot more laid back. If I dont go out on the friday night im not stressing about it like I would in the states. Its really nice in a lot of ways!
ReplyDeleteThis seems to describe me perfectly. I'm definitely an introvert.
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yes!!! i havent looked at blogger for ages and im soooo happy this was today's post megan! you speak my language :)
ReplyDeletei definitely feel the same...with the exception that i sometimes speak before thinking well about what i'm going to say. eehhh.
ReplyDeletethis definitely speaks to me.. word for word (:
ReplyDeletei love a good party, and i definitely am quite sociable thanks to being a gemini... but in all honesty, as you said, crowds and groups and even family for extended periods of time start to.. irk me..?
like, i dont feel like i can be myself amongst THAT many people for THAT long...
and for so long, i hated myself for this. i would be so shy and blame it on being an introvert.. and then i let that caterpillar turn into a butterfly and BAM! i'm an in your face at a party kind of introvert who desperately wants to be home in pjs, a tank top, with a glass of wine, and some sex and the city..
gemini much? i think so... introvert? mos def.. still awesome? fo sho...
and yes.
i am way white.
and way american... lest my comment gave it away...
I am definitely an introvert. I worry sometimes that people will think I don't care about them even close friends and family if I take a day or some time to myself. If I don't have some alone time I will get anxious and just not feel right. I do love being with my friends or going to parties but only sometimes. I cannot be partying every weekend that would drive me crazy!!
ReplyDeleteps. what lipstick are you wearing? it's gorgeous!
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I remember reading that quote some time ago and thought that it basically summed an introvert's life perfectly. I definitely relate to the listening more, thinking more, and writing more. I also prefer one on one because it just gives more opportunity to devote all your attention on just that one person, which I love. I've shared this other quote with others on the subject of introversion, and I kind of love it so I'm going to share it with you because I think you'll enjoy it too:
ReplyDelete“I loathe when people think that I’m shy rather than introverted. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with being shy, I’m just not, and they are two separate things. People cajoling me into social situations try to assure me that I ‘don’t have to talk to everyone’ or that ‘everyone will love me.’
Bitch, of course they will like me. I am delightful. I just find prolonged social interactions to be extremely exhausting.”
It was a comment someone posted on an xojane article titled, "I'm Not A Miserable Bitch, Really: I'm Just An Introvert"
I am definitely an introvert and it doesn't help that I am also a Cancer too lol. I tried to deny it just like you did, but it was just too exhausting to try to be someone that i'm not. Super nice quote. Thanks for sharing :)
ReplyDeleteUM can we please just live close together and be bff's already?! JEEZ. I'm such an introvert and I bet you could make me laugh like crazy! I totally agree with re-charging by being alone too :) I thought I was just weird wanting to be alone a lot haha
ReplyDeleteI'm reading that book now & love that quote- I'm such an introvert & agree w/the comments that most people misunderstand introverts.
ReplyDeleteIts not that I can't talk to people..... I may just sometimes not want to!
This is so funny - I just heard a speech on this the other day! I'm the same - I like social settings, but not for too long. And I agree, knowing your strengths and limits can help you grow. Thanks for sharing!
ReplyDeleteI go back and forth. But reading this I was nodding my head - I love my few hours of alone time in the morn and would just die to get to talk to you alone in person rather than a group (:
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YES. That is me. I'm an only child so I sometimes think the introvert was built in to me from the get-go. I lived with a roommate for a few years in college, but now being back to living alone I savor it, and crave it when I've been indulging in an actual social life. I love spending time with my small group of dear friends, but big parties and such? Eh, I could take it or leave it. I'm with you, until I live with a significant other I'm happy on my own!
ReplyDeleteSusan Cain, the author of "Quiet," gave a wonderful talk at TED that you might be interested in...
ReplyDeletehttp://www.ted.com/talks/lang/en/susan_cain_the_power_of_introverts.html
I love the striped oxford and the white denim! I think I am an extrovert, but sometimes I binge and overdose on people and social events and then have to take an introverted break to recover :)
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I definitely resonate with that quote and I would agree with you that most bloggers are introverted. (but we post pictures of friends to not seem like loners?) Also, what socialite spends hours blogging. I did, however, take one of those myers-briggs tests and I landed between introvert and extrovert TWICE and I didn't know that was possible. I'm just a vert.
ReplyDeletedefinitely an introvert! and it's getting worse with age...now i'm just kinda socially awkward too ;)))
ReplyDeletei agree that most bloggers are introverts! we're more thoughtful. i think bloggers are thoughtful writers.
after a few blogger meet ups i've realized how weird we all are. and it's great!
Sounds like you're describing me!
ReplyDeleteCute look! Loving your top! I'm totally with you! I take photos for my blog and have performed infront of tons of people. But am slightly introverted and shy.. Hard to believe lol!
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This sounds just like me. People don't expect it from some people, especially bloggers or musicians and the like, but it's nice to see plenty of us are just the same :)
ReplyDeleteAmen! Me too!
ReplyDeleteI am such an introvert and that quote is me to a tee.
ReplyDeleteAnd for years I tried to be someone else but now I embrace it :)
i am so with you on this one. great posts, great thoughts. xo.
ReplyDeleteYep, i'm an introverted one. Always has, always been. Definitely.
ReplyDeleteDefinitely and introvert, thank God for my sister who is an extrovert! lol Btw -- do you know who Fran Drescher is? You should try her style sometime, you have the awesome hair for it!
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